Unlock the Power of Emotions
UNDERSTAND OUR EMOTIONS
The second step is to understand the reason for the emotion. In my case, I’ve found that everything from the time of day, the weather, the length of my to-do list or my latest interaction with someone can change how I’m feeling. In communicating with others, the ability to pinpoint the reason someone is experiencing an emotion vastly improves your communication with them.
LABEL OUR EMOTIONS
When it comes to naming my own emotions, I’m remarkably lacking in creativity, often vacillating between the words “great” and “OK” and “frustrated.” A quick internet search, however, suggests there are more than 3,000 words for our feelings. After reading Brackett’s book, I downloaded the “How We Feel” app (you can find it at howwefeel.org) to improve my ability to name, and thereby pay more attention to, my emotions. The app lists 144 words to describe our feelings and connects those feelings to other events, the weather, sleep and physical activity to detect trends in one’s emotional state.
EXPRESS OUR EMOTIONS
Expressing how you feel doesn’t mean you have to share all of your feelings with everyone you meet. Rather, having a sense of how and when to display your emotions, and knowing the appropriateness and the “unspoken rules” (also called “display rules”) of your audience and the setting are key.
REGULATE OUR EMOTIONS
Managing one’s emotions isn’t the typical kind of hard work you are used to on a family farm or ranch, but always being on top of your emotional state can wear you down, particularly when there is a gap between how you feel and how you present yourself to others. Regulating strategies can include focused breathing, performing rituals to prepare for emotionally taxing circumstances, shifting your attention away from certain feelings, reframing how you see a situation and pausing to take a third-person view of your current state.
Brackett points out that “our cognitive abilities — what we focus on, where we devote our efforts, what we remember, how we make decisions, our levels of creativity and engagement — all depend on our emotional state.” Recognizing, Understanding, Labeling, Expressing and Regulating our emotions can not only improve our mental health but also improve our relationships, our physical health and our performance in our family businesses.
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